Monday, March 28, 2011

Tough Choices

So often in life we have to make difficult decisions.  For example, in an infertile’s world… “When do I contact a reproductive endocrinologist?”, “What treatments am I willing to pursue and for how long?”, “What drugs am I willing to take?”,  “Do I pursue treatments this month or do I take time off”, “How many IUI’s are realistic?”, “When do we move on to IVF?”, “DO we move on to IVF?”, “When is enough enough and we move on to other options?”, …to the more mundane decisions like, “How long do I wait for my Dr. to call me back before I call THEM back?” or “How am I going to juggle my schedule to accommodate all of the doctor appointments, monitoring appointments and procedures?” 

OK, I could go on for pages and pages about the decisions that we have to make, but we all have to make difficult decisions in life, infertile or not.  And a lot of times there isn’t a right or wrong choice.  There are many good choices, but not a clear path to take. Sometimes there even is a logical path to take but…The question we must answer is, “What is the Lord’s will…what decision does the Lord want me to make?”  We need to be asking the Lord to guide us even in the mundane decisions.  We must pray for wisdom in making these choices so that we know we are walking along the path the Lord has for us.  Sometimes the path He leads us on might not make sense to others.  It might not even make sense in the eyes of the medical community.  But as long as we are earnestly seeking the Lord’s will and obeying, we can be confident that we are right where we need to be.  See the below excerpt from none other than Girlfriends in God.  :)

“This is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ.”
   -- Philippians 1:9-10

I don't know about you, but my most difficult decisions are not about choosing between good and bad. I usually know what is good and what is bad, especially when bad involves evil. My toughest choices are when I have to choose between good, better, and best. My love for God usually overcomes my weakness and I choose good over bad. But unless I've placed myself before God's word and surrendered my heart to him in prayer, I have a very tough time choosing between good and best. Yet I'm convinced that much of what God would love to do through us today goes lacking because we've settled for good when he longs to lead us to best!

Gracious and Almighty God, teach me your ways and give me your heart as I strive to not only love you, but to know your will and have insight into your ways. Help me to know the best things to do today and through the rest of my life. Give me wisdom to use my time in the best way possible to live out your will in my work, with my family, among my friends, and especially before those who do not know Christ as their Savior. In the name of Jesus Christ, my Savior and Lord I pray. Amen.


And a couple more verses on the topic…

“But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths."  Proverbs 3:5-6


  1. I love that when we ask God for wisdom, the Bible says that it WILL be given to us. AMEN!

  2. What a great post... so true.. the struggle between good enough and the best that God has for us... wow.

  3. That really helped me today, thanks for your insight!

  4. i love when you post these reflections! praying for you :)

  5. Thank you for this post! We are contemplating pursuing an FET cycle in the next few months and your post is a great reminder that we need to be praying and seeking God's plan FIRST.

  6. Lisa - My husband and I have actually dedicated this weekend (Fri-Mon) to prayer and fasting to help us determine our next steps and big choices lie ahead! Thanks for these great reminders!