I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately to get ready for Russia and our child! I thought I would share a few of the books that I have read in case anyone is interested in educating themselves about international adoption. :)
“Adopting a Toddler: What Size Show Does She Wear?” by Denise Harris Hoppenhauer
This is a great book for anyone that is adopting a toddler, specifically internationally. She goes through very specific suggestions for what to bring when you travel, questions to ask orphanage workers, how to figure out what size shoe your child wears, how to handle bed time, meal time, etc. Some of it is very basic parenting advice that is a review for anyone who has any experience working with children, but the adoption specific information was great! I made myself a ton of lists/notes from the book!
“Risk and Promise: a Handbook for Parents Adopting a Child From Overseas” by Chasnoff, Schwartz, Pratt and Neuberger
Another great book! This one starts off a little technical but gets more applicable as you go. A lot of the book prepares you for the background and history of your child and how to interpret/understand it. The book covers everything from pregnancy and the factors (drugs, alcohol, maternal age, gestational age, etc) that may effect the health and growth of the newborn. It discusses possible infections (HIV, Hepatitis A,B,C, etc), growth patterns, child development, etc. And then the best part are all of the charts in the back of the book. It includes growth charts, parent observation forms to take to the orphanage/foster home with you, questions for orphanage staff, developmental checklist, attachment observations, etc. Very helpful!! I have many of them printed off to take with us to Russia.
“In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You to Know About Adoption…A Guide for Relatives and Friends” by Elisabeth O’Toole
Very basic overview of the adoption process, paperwork, child’s privacy, talking about adoption, how to answer difficult questions, etc. It is a very easy read and I think a really good book for anyone that is touched by adoption, including grandparents, friends, etc.
“Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years” by Patty Cogen
I am not sure how I feel about this book. She has some great suggestions and thoughts…for one, I like how she refers to the child’s family age. If the child is chronologically a 5 year old but has only been in your home for one month you cannot expect him to act like a 5 year old! Instead, nurture him like you would a child that is much longer. She also talks some about the brain and the impact that neglect/abuse/trauma can have on brain development, attachment and growth. That part was good. Some of her ideas though I think are sort of out there and a little wonky. It’s a really long book and I got bored halfway through and have still not finished.
Okay, that’s all for now. I hope that helped someone. :) What good adoption books have you read?